There are moments in life when our hearts break open, leaving us questioning everything we thought we understood. A sudden loss, a tragedy without warning, or the passing of someone far too young can devastate us. In those moments, we often have that one question: “Why is this happening to me?”
You are not alone with this question. I've asked it myself and so have many others around the world. The truth is, as much as we long for clarity, we don’t always see the full picture.
Nothing Happens Without Purpose
Life unfolds in ways that our human minds cannot always comprehend. But from a spiritual perspective, every experience carries meaning - even when it feels senseless.
As a spiritual medium, I connect with loved ones in Spirit who now see the greater tapestry of life. They remind me again and again that nothing happens to us - but rather for us. And I understand that these words may be hard to grasp in your pain, but perhaps they can be a starting point for accepting these unbearable tragedies.
Why Do Tragedies Happen? Understanding Loss from Spirit’s Perspective
When someone we love dies suddenly, unexpectedly, or “too soon,” our hearts cry out for answers. We ask ourselves:
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Why would Spirit allow this to happen?
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What possible purpose could this serve?
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How can I go on without them?
It is natural to feel anger, grief, and even betrayal by life itself. A friend once asked me, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” Her answer was profound: sometimes tragedies enable us to help others through their suffering. They soften our hearts, open our compassion, and remind us that love continues even in the darkest of times.
From Spirit’s perspective, every soul chooses its journey - even the timing of when they leave the physical world. To us, a sudden or “early” death feels like a cruel accident. But Spirit often shows me that the soul fulfilled what it came here to do, even if the story feels incomplete to those left behind.
This doesn’t erase the pain of loss, but it can plant a seed of understanding: there is a higher purpose woven into even the most difficult departures.
How Loss Becomes a Teacher on the Soul’s Journey
Nothing that happens in our lives is random. Every heartbreak, every loss, every closed door carries within it an invitation to grow. We often think of tragedies as endings, but Spirit reminds us they are also beginnings.
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The relationship that didn’t work out? It may have taught you self-worth and the courage to love yourself first.
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The deep loss of someone beloved? It may have awakened in you an even deeper capacity for love.
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The sudden change you never wanted? It may have realigned you with a path more aligned with your soul.
It is not that Spirit causes our suffering, but that Spirit works through our suffering to expand us. Pain cracks us open so that more light can enter.
My Personal Story: Grief, Mediumship, and Finding a New Path
I share these truths not just as a medium, but as someone who has walked this path of loss myself. I know the darkness grief can leave behind, because I have lived it.
Very young in life, I lost my father, my grandmother, and my beloved guinea pigs within a short amount time. Each of these losses carved a hole in my heart. It felt as though the light had been turned off, and all that remained was emptiness. For a long period of time, the sadness lingered, and the question “Why?” haunted me without an answer.
My mother, searching for meaning herself, introduced me and my grandfather to the world of mediumship. Together, we began to explore spiritual churches, sitting in circles and opening ourselves to the possibility that our loved ones were not gone but transformed and continued to be with us. For over eleven years, our family vacations were not trips to faraway beaches but journeys to spiritual communities, where we found strength, support, and new bonds of closeness between us.
The sadness did not magically disappear. The grief did not simply fade away. But something else grew alongside it: a new path. Synchronicities guided me to courses and circles that allowed me to develop further my own mediumship abilities. Little by little, I began to find a new voice within this community. The very losses that had once broken me became the soil in which my spiritual calling took root.
Looking back now, I realize: I would have probably never become the person and spiritual medium I am today without those losses. They reshaped me, taught me resilience, and awakened in me a calling to help others heal. What has healed me is now what I share with others.
Because I believe that a new future is not possible without healing - and healing happens through love. Reconnecting with loved ones is one way to experience this continuous love and allow healing to flow through the places where grief has left its mark.
When We Cry “Why Me?”: Spiritual Insights on Suffering
When life feels unbearable, we often ask, “Why me?” But Spirit gently reminds us: “Why not you?”
This is not punishment. It is part of being human. As souls in human form, we came here not to avoid pain but to experience the full range of life. To love deeply means that loss will one day follow. To risk failure means opening ourselves to growth. To live fully means embracing both joy and sorrow as equal teachers.
Grief is not evidence that something has gone wrong. Grief is evidence that love has been present. And isn't that the beauty of grief and sadness?
The Bigger Picture: What Spirit Teaches About Death and Life
One of the greatest lessons I receive from Spirit is that those who have crossed over can see the bigger picture with clarity and compassion. While we are caught in the fog of grief, they are able to see the unseen threads - the reasons, the timing, and the ways our lives are interconnected beyond what we imagine.
From their perspective, there are no accidents. Every soul departs at the right time, even if it feels tragically “wrong” from where we stand.
The comfort they often bring is this: “I am not gone. I am still with you. I love you now as much as I ever did.”
And perhaps even more powerful: “You don’t have to wait until you are here with me to trust. You can choose to trust the unseen journey now and understand that I am still with you in the same way I was before.”
Expectations vs. the Unknown: Learning to Surrender
Part of our suffering comes from unmet expectations. We expect our loved ones to live long lives. We expect tomorrow to look like today. We expect that if we love enough, try enough, or pray enough, life will protect us from heartbreak.
But life does not move according to our scripts.
One of my favorite reminders is this:
“Expectations are our attempt to script the future, but the soul thrives in the unknown.”
Our souls are not here for certainty - they are here for growth. And growth happens in the unknown. When we loosen our grip on what should have been, we open to what can still be.
5 Practical Ways to Begin Accepting Loss
So how do we begin to accept tragedies that feel unexplainable? There is no single path, but Spirit often shares these truths with me:
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Feel your feelings. Acceptance does not mean suppressing grief. Cry, rage, mourn— your emotions are sacred and valid.
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Seek meaning, not answers. You may never know “why” something happened, but you can discover how it changes you, shapes you, and teaches you.
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Lean on Spirit. Know that your loved ones continue beside you. Signs, dreams, and synchronicities are their way of reminding you that love never dies.
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Trust the unseen journey. Remember that nothing is wasted. Even this pain will become part of your soul’s growth.
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Find your own rituals. Journaling, lighting a candle, or speaking to your loved one in Spirit can create moments of connection and comfort.
Acceptance is not a one-time event. It’s a process of softening into life as it is, rather than how we thought it should be.
Final Thoughts: Trusting the Unseen Journey
Tragedies and sudden losses will never feel easy. Grief is part of the human experience, and no words can erase its sting.
I would give so much to have my loved ones physically with me again, yet I remind myself daily that they are, in fact, still with me - more content, healed, and closer than they could have ever been before.
When you feel lost, remember: Spirit is always working behind the scenes, guiding you, comforting you, and reminding you that nothing is ever truly lost.
Mediumship and Pet Communication: Let Me Support You
Every time I sit with someone in a mediumship reading, I am reminded that life goes on. Loved ones show me evidence of their presence, their personality, and their continuing love. And in that moment, spiritual healing happens. Our hearts begin to remember that they are not alone.
This same eternal bond exists with our animal companions, and through pet communication sessions, we can reconnect with them in Spirit to find comfort and peace.
Whether you are seeking healing or guidance, I would be honored to support you through my mediumship and pet communication readings, which bring through messages of love, clarity, and hope - helping you move forward with trust, peace, and renewed direction.
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