Missing you gets easier everyday because even though I am one day further from the last day I saw you, I am one day closer to the next time I will.
Dealing with the absence of my loved ones who have passed on and the sadness about not being physically able to interact with them, comes in waves for me. Some days it’s easier than others. Often, I am filled with the joy of knowing that they still walk right besides me. Other days, I just miss them terribly.
This experience is one shared by many—family, friends, even clients.
Growing up, my family instilled in me a perspective that always sought the positive side of things, the ‘’The half full glass’ mindset.’’ but dealing with the loss of a loved one challenges even the most optimistic mindset.
While I understand the concept of them being in a better place, free from suffering, it doesn't lift my own pain of their moving on. The same questions continue to come back: Why and how did it happen? Why so soon, so suddenly, so unexpectedly? These questions echo in the experiences of countless others.
Yet, I learned that it’s ok to be sad, it’s okay to mourn. However, there's a broader narrative to consider. There should be more to this story.
Reflect on the connections made and experiences gained since their passing—encounters and activities that may have never happened otherwise. Did you start attending new circles, classes or groups? Did you find new friends or bond with people that used to be acquaintances? Also, consider the newfound strengths, lessons learned, and animal companionship that have enriched your life. And then, consider the ways in which you've given back, offering support and empathy to others navigating their own grief.
Out of personal tragedy, remarkable initiatives often emerge—organizations and foundations founded by those who have walked the same painful path, now dedicated to aiding others in similar circumstances.
Personally, I would have never embarked on this spiritual journey, if I would have not lost most of my family at a very young age. I learned very quickly to value the time spent with loved ones here on earth and I was seeking an answer of what comes afterwards. After reading countless books and visiting mediums in different countries, I didn’t believe anymore in the existence of the spirit world. I knew they were always around just how I had felt it all along.
Being able to help others today to navigate through the pain and grief of losing a loved one, is an honor for me. That’s my ‘‘The half full glass’’ perspective. What is yours?
Grief, with its all facets, has its place, but so too do the alternate perspectives. Ultimately, the quote ‘Missing you gets easier everyday because even though I am one day further from the last day I saw you, I am one day closer to the next time I will.’ serves as a beautiful reminder that our earthly existence is just a chapter in our eternal journey. Ultimately, we don’t have to wait to see our loved ones again. Our loved ones remain intertwined with us, guiding and loving us from beyond. In truth, we've never truly been apart and we always will be connected.